Personal growth, faith, prayer, contemplation, love, oneness,, Prayer

The process of learning to forgive

 

The process
Of learning to forgive
Those who have damaged us
Most deeply

Is a lifelong masterclass,
With you, Lord, as our guide,
Helping us to grow
Much more like you.

**************************************

Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do (Luke 23:34; KJV).

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:5; NIV).

We have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16; NLT).

We will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ (Ephesians 4:15; NLT).

It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me (Galatians 2:20; NLT).

Advertisements
Standard
Prayer, spiritual development, personal growth, faith, exploration, wholeness,

When someone hurts me

When someone hurts me, I tell them how I feel. If they apologise, I forgive them immediately and genuinely, without hesitation. Then we put what happened behind us, and our relationship is undamaged.

However, when someone hurts me, but doesn’t apologise, we inevitably have unfinished business. The relationship becomes awkward. I’m tempted to avoid the person, and may even do so. I wait for months, sometimes even years, still hoping they will think about what they did, and that in the end they will care enough to approach me. Meanwhile, I pray for them each day, whilst trying to forgive and love them.

Eventually, I realise they are not going to apologise, and give up hoping, which is a big step forward. I face the fact that forgiving them is entirely my responsibility, because the other person involved isn’t going to help in any way. They may have forgotten what happened, or simply not care. However, I still need to forgive them, and to work out how to love them and relate to to them, despite what they did. This is a big challenge.

From this point onwards, I continue praying for the person and trying to forgive and love them, whilst also attempting to develop a new relationship with them, if possible. On my side, at least, this new relationship will, of necessity, recognise, include and accept all that has passed between us, both good and bad.

In my experience, learning to forgive those who hurt us, but won’t apologise, is one of the most challenging spiritual tasks we face throughout our lives. However, such forgiveness is a vital healing process, if we are serious about spreading God’s kingdom on earth.

***********************************************************

If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them, and if they repent, forgive them (Luke 17:3; NIV).

We will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ (Ephesians 4:15; NLT).

Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing (Luke 23:34; NLT).

Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us (Luke 11:4; NLT).

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44; NIV).

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them (Romans 12.9; NLT).

The Kingdom of God is within you (Luke 17:21; KJV).

Standard
body, mind, heart, soul, realisation, important, prayer, contemplation,, Prayer

Personality

The Lord is my strength and shield (Psalm 28:7; NLT).

He is my shield, and I take refuge in him (Psalm 144:2; NLT).

He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety (Psalm 18:2; NLT).

You, Lord, are a shield around me (Psalm 3:3; NLT).

******************************

 

Lord God,
The outward “personality”
I’ve built up
Since my childhood

Is nothing but a frail facade
That shields
My damaged core
As best it can.

Standard
body, mind, heart, soul, realisation, important, prayer, contemplation,, Prayer

Forgiveness

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44; NIV).

Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us (Luke 11:4; NLT).

……………………………………….

 

 

Lord God,
When I can pray

For someone who has hurt
Or damaged me,

Without a single reservation
From my shadow self,

Then I know for sure
That I’ve forgiven them, at last.

Standard
Prayer

Inner peace

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44; NIV).

Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us (Luke11:4; NLT).

I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give (John 14:27; NLT).

…………………………………………………………..

 

Each day, I pray for those
Who’ve hurt or damaged me,
Forgiving them afresh;

And I’ll do this, Lord,
Until the hurt is healed,
And all the damage overcome,

For then
I will have inner peace,
At last.

Standard
Prayer

Consequences

If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone (Matthew 18:15; NRSV).

So then, putting away all falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbours, for we are members of one another. Be angry but do not sin (Ephesians 4:25-6).

Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us (Luke 11:4; NLT).

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44; NIV).

……………………………………………………………………………..

 

Lord God,
When someone hurts me,
I talk to them about it privately.

If they don’t apologise,
Or even acknowledge
The harm they’ve done,
I can forgive them,
And I can pray for them –

But I can’t relate to them
As if the damage they did
To our relationship
Has been resolved.

Standard
Prayer

Soul

I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me (Psalm 120:1; NIV).

The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul (Psalm 121:7; KJV).

The dust returns to the ground it came from, and the spirit returns to God who gave it (Ecclesiastes 12:7; NIV).

Whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit (1 Corinthians 6:17; NIV).

 

Lord,
I thought my soul
Was seriously damaged,

So I called on you
For healing,
And for help.

But you answered me
By showing me
It’s perfect –

Whole,
Undamaged by abuse,
And part of you.

 

Standard