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Hurt is inevitable

If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone (Matthew 18:15; NRSV).

So then, putting away all falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbours, for we are members of one another. Be angry but do not sin (Ephesians 4:25-6; NRSV).

We will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ (Ephesians 4:15; NLT).



In all relationships
And groups,
Hurt is inevitable.

What counts
Is how we handle it
When it occurs.

We have two choices:

We can face,
And resolve each issue
As it arises,
Then move forward
With a better understanding
Of one another;


We can allow the hurts
To build up,
And unresolved,
Until the relationship concerned
Breaks down completely –

The choice is ours.


Standing my ground

Stand your ground (Ephesians 6:14; NLT).

Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15; NLT).

Now I stand on solid ground (Psalm 26:12; NLT).

Toxic people want relationships
On their terms only.

That’s sad,
But fine with me.

If they can’t handle
Me just being who I am,

Standing my ground,
And speaking my truth with love,

Then we cannot have
A relationship of any kind,

And that’s the end of it.


The long way round

God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them (1 John 4:16; NLT).

“He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you” (Deuteronomy 31:8; NLT).

“For indeed, the Kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21; NKJV).

I’m coming to you
The long way round –

Blundering blindly,
Wandering aimlessly,

Lost in deserts,
Following dead ends,

Trying to find you,
Getting things wrong,

Making mistakes,
And messing up relationships…

But although I’m coming to you
The long way round,

You’re with me all the time –
Here, deep in my heart.


One-way relationships

Hello everyone. All my life I’ve struggled over how to handle “relationships” in which I offer support to people who are clearly struggling, only to find, months later, that they will consume any amount of help without ever beginning to reciprocate in any way. Feeling ignored, hurt and taken for granted inevitably leads to resentment. Then I wonder how to handle the situation in a Christian way, without ever knowing how this should be done. Hence today’s prayer!

One-way relationships
* But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back
(Luke 6:35; NIV).
* Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces (Matthew 7:6; NIV).

How should I relate to those
Who offer nothing in return
For endless support?

They take,
Yet show no care for me,
While knowing
I have troubles of my own.

I’m worn out, Lord!
I’m tired of being hurt
By those who don’t reciprocate.

How should I handle
These one-way relationships?

Should I suppress how I feel,
Continuing to offer help?

Should I give honest feedback,
Speaking the truth with love?

Or should I withdraw,
Protecting myself from further harm?

Please show me your will,
And help me to put it into practice.


Inner peace

Hello, everyone. I’ve suffered from anxiety since I was very small, and once it starts, I just can’t turn it off. For the last few years, I’ve been working on reducing my anxiety by developing healthier relationships, which is very hard work!

NB: It’s just possible that my technically BRILLIANT husband has solved my formatting problems…

Inner peace

Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator (Colossians 3:9-10).

Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace (Romans 14:19).

I want to have inner peace.

Help me to be self-aware:
To build and maintain
A healthy relationship with myself,
With others,
And with you.

Help me accept myself as I am,
Always listening to my body
And to my gut feelings,
Always in touch
With my innermost thoughts and concerns.

Help me to set good boundaries with others
By speaking and acting honestly,
On the basis of constant self-awareness.

Then I will be at peace –
With myself,
With others,
And with you.

I ask this in Jesus’ name,