When someone hurts me

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Father, forgive them,
for they don’t know what they are doing
(Luke 23:34; NLT).


1. When someone hurts me
Very deeply,
How can I explain
Without offence?

2. I try so hard
To speak the truth, Lord, gently,
But then they turn on me
And are incensed.

3. I pray for them,
For reconciliation,
And friendship,
But their love has changed to hate.

4. Lord, how can I set boundaries
With others
So they don’t blame me,
And retaliate?

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1. If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them (Luke 17:3; NIV).

2. We will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ (Ephesians 4:15; NLT).

Even my best friend, the one I trusted completely, the one who shared my food, has turned against me (Psalm 41:9; NLT).

3. Pray for those who hurt you (Luke 6:28; NLT).

See how many enemies I have and how viciously they hate me! (Psalm 25:19; NLT).

4. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behaviour. Instead, be kind to each other, just as God through Christ has forgiven you (Ephesians 4:31-2; NLT).

Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us (Luke 11:4; NLT).

7 thoughts on “When someone hurts me

  • This is a very difficult problem, mainly because of the pain involved is so raw. We have close relationships with people in our lives who don’t walk very closely (if at all) with God. I find in my life keeping my response to a minimum and retreating to pray about it is my wisest course of action, but it doesn’t always turn out see clearly. Especially if I let my pride interfere, then I am in big trouble. At the end of each day we can surrender all to Him safe in the knowledge that His Light will lead us in these dark moments. Thank you for your daily inspirational poems Ruth, they are a real blessing every day. God bless you sister.

    • Hello Alan, how are you? I’d love to hear. You are right that today’s prayer is about a very difficult issue. Most times I find it best to say nothing and turn the other cheek. But there are times when I have to speak out, for the sake of my own safety or mental health, and however lovingly I do so, my experience is that it’s me who ends up getting hurt and blamed. There is a conflict between turning the other cheek and the instruction to talk to the person privately and be reconciled. It can be very hard to find the right balance between these, especially when someone very significant to me has struck a deeply damaging blow. In this particular case, it’s my priest, who has suddenly turned on me, and hasn’t responded to my suggesting we could meet to talk. I don’t know whether I will ever be able to face going to church again. Please don’t feel you have to reply, as I know you are suffering. With thanks and best wishes from Ruth xxxx

      • Hi Ruth, I was looking for your email address but my mind is running on one wheel at the moment…lol. It sounds to me like your priest has lost sight of his place in God’s order, this usually happens with folk who fall into the subtle traps of pride. They take comments as a personal affront even when they are given in christian love. You would be surprised how often this happens with leaders in their dealings with the laity, it happens in all denominations. I had to deal with this years ago, having to resort to banishing a pastor from my home!
        My temperature is under control but the infection is taking time to control. I just heard today I will be staying in hospital for a while longer. These are just wee trials on the path of faith in Him Ruth, if we keep our eyes firmly on Him everything life and people throw at us really don’t matter. God bless you and fill you with widom and peace in your trials today.

      • Dear Alan, thank you so much for replying, especially as you are so poorly. Any time you don’t answer, I will understand, and will continue to pray for you. I suspect that you and I have a very similar attitude to physical illness. Personally, I’d much rather be ill than get into relationship difficulties with anyone, as it’s such a torment.

        You hit the nail directly on the head: I texted him to say how sad I was to have just accidentally discovered that masses had resumed. I neither said, nor thought, that this was in any way his responsibility. I just felt very sad that no one in our tiny mid-week congregation had noticed I wasn’t there, or thought of saying anything. Unfortunately, he took this as a full-frontal criticism of himself, and told me so in no uncertain terms. I tried to explain, and to suggest we could meet for reconciliation, but it was no good, as he immediately stopped responding to me in any way.

        Thank you for telling me about how you once had to banish a pastor from coming to your house. That was quite comforting, in a strange sort of way, as it made me feel less alone.

        Take care, Alan, rest the best you can (I know how hard this is in hospital), and do let me know if, or when, you need support xxxxxx

      • Hi, Alan, how are you? I’m praying for you, and would love to know how you’re doing. May God bless you xxxxxxx

  • Hi Ruth, Good morning! My cellulitis is in serious retreat. My leg which was seriously blistered has lost a lot of tissue and requires daily dressing. I am stuck in a cycle of pain, morphine and sleep at present. Trying to control it is difficult as the pain is really severe, and nothing else helps it. The good news is that I am able to go home today where the district nursing team will care for me. I really dislike being so tired and unable to function, but I know it is under His control, I just need to trust Him. Please pray for our blogging brother David Kitz, he is having heart surgery today. Thank you for your compassion and prayers Ruth, they are very valuable to me. I hope you are well sister, God bless you.🙏

    • Good morning, Alan, I was getting quite concerned about you, so am very grateful for your news. It’s good that the cellulitis is improving, but your pain cycle with the heavily damaged leg must be very hard to bear. All you can do is to accept the treatment, put yourself in God’s hands, and rest in his presence as best you can. I hope so much that going home will be helpful and more comfortable for you, and that the nursing team will be brilliant helpers. Fatigue and disability are hard to accept, as I well know. Put all your trust in God, and talk with him as much as you need to, being absolutely honest about your thoughts and feelings with him. He will understand, and really appreciate your honesty. I’ve prayed for David, and deeply hope all will go as well as possible for him today, and over the days that follow. Today I enter an intense period of medical stuff, initially lasting a week, including a visit to the bowel consultant, which could lead to surgery. Next Monday, I’ll be on regular morphine myself, so I’ll use that as a special opportunity to share with you. Take care, Alan. This will pass.
      With love and very best wishes, from Ruth XXXX

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